Confidence. It’s the holy grail – the most coveted (and misunderstood) attribute out there. But people too often mistakenly believe that confidence is all about having an impenetrable and perfect front. As a result, they come across as arrogant, cocky or a ‘know-it-all” – and no one is attracted to that! So what do you need to do to come across as more confident?
Here’s the secret. It’s not about what you do that makes you appear confident – it’s what you DON’T do!
Check out some tips on what separates truly confident people from the pack and the things you will never see them doing.
- They never put up a false front: A truly confident person is honest on all accounts, especially when they don’t know something. They’re not afraid to look “dumb” because they know they’re not. They’d rather learn than pretend. Authenticity is more important than false credibility. The best part is they are who they really are on every occasion.
- They don’t try to be people pleasers: Confident people don’t hold back their beliefs or sugarcoat things. They say what’s on their mind whether others agree or not. They are driven by internal validation. They don’t need your opinion to remind them of their awesomeness. Sure, it’s nice when others appreciate them, but it’s not necessary to their existence.
- They don’t compare themselves to others: Confident people understand that “comparison is the death of joy.” They are so comfortable in their own skin and so secure in their own abilities, that it doesn’t matter what other people are doing around them. They always play their game and aren’t distracted by other people’s approach or success.
- They don’t judge or criticize: Truly confident people don’t need to take other people down in order to make themselves feel good. They appreciate and accept the uniqueness in others and know that standing out is a good thing. They’re champions of authenticity, not critics. Even if they disagree with what you have to say, they respect your opinions.
- They don’t hog the spotlight: You may think that a confident person would want to shine in every situation. Stealing the show doesn’t make you confident. It makes you a show-off! In fact, there’s nothing more irresistible than someone with quiet confidence. Their actions speak louder than words and that’s all that truly matters.
